I’m sure you have wanted something you couldn’t have. And you have gotten something you did want. So what causes that difference? Is it magic? Fate? Luck?
You could say you are limited by your financial situation, or where and how you were raised, or time constraints or your partner doesn’t agree with you. The list of reasons, stories and excuses for not getting and having what you want and enjoying it are long.
Have you ever desired something, gotten it, and then watched yourself quickly lose interest until you wanted something else? What is the key to desiring something, getting it, and enjoying it?
Wanting is not a powerful place to come from.
It lacks responsibility, intention, an action plan, and more. Your wants are in the same realm as your hopes, dreams, and desires. And while an accident may happen and a dream can come true, what works is an entirely different way of being about your life.
Commitment implies you are ‘all in’ and will do what it takes no matter what the circumstances are. You are willing to endure some difficulties and overcome challenges along the way. When things don’t go your way, you will seek out new paths and support. Commitment is leaning in, rather than sitting and waiting. Commitment requires a vision. It is helpful to hang that vision on the wall in the form of a picture or paragraph or both.
“Commitment is leaning in, rather than sitting and waiting. Commitment requires a vision. ”
You will have days where the inside of your head conspires against you. Having reminders outside of yourself helps you keep going. Commitment means you are sharing your vision with others, as well. Be careful here, as sharing your vision with naysayers is a bad idea. The vision is tenuous and can be easily derailed. You will want to visit and enjoy as much of your vision as you can as you are working on achieving it. This can mean test driving a car, talking to people in the country you want to visit, or walking through the university you mean to attend. Go see how it feels. Notice both your excitement and your resistance. The emotion of the thing will forward the action towards it.
You can have what you get committed to. It is that simple. But you need to learn about and apply the dynamics of commitment to create it. And you will likely practice this again and again as you move through life. Read books about committed people. Watch movies about them. Go see what they achieved. Be inspired by their story. Each of us has far more inside of us than we will ever express and enjoy. Get started on your commitments. It’s the joy of life.