1. You cannot know yourself without reflections from others. If you are not trainable, coachable, or teachable, you will not step outside of your comfort zone and realize your real, true and beautiful self. You must be willing to try on new perspectives even though some will be uncomfortable. This applies to your strengths and your weaknesses.
2. If your perception of yourself is fixed and inflexible(that’s just the way I am)you cannot reinvent yourself. Consider others feedback can be the mirror to a new view of yourself. And this new perspective will help you shift your actions and results.
3. If you are not willing to discover new ways of thinking, feeling, acting and being, you will not shift your locus of experience. Consider you are more than you currently think you are…
4. If you don’t assign time and energy to take new actions each week, based on new insights, not much will change. And nothing will transform. Self actualization is not an accident. You will need to schedule time to do the work and follow through. And you will need to get support around the new consequences you experience.
5. If you are too important, too isolated in your power, to dynamic in your personality without compassion or lack a sense of humor, this process will be uncomfortable, then painful and in the end you will quit without getting much value. You will have some knowledge, but without much new power. You need to be willing to not know how the future will occur to discover and realize yourself and your future in a new way.
6. If you are meek or falsely humble, you will be victimized by the learning process or your failure to take action on new awareness. Awareness without action attached is almost useless. Consider you are already greater than you know and powerful in ways you can’t yet understand.
7. If you have the need to make jokes, trivialize yourself and life and not take anything seriously, this will be a short-lived experience. Becoming yourself is serious business. There is fun and laughter along the way, but you need to bring your focused self to the process to have success. You need to be able to focus and bring your full attention and power to your next thought, feeling and action to get the results you say you want.
8. If you ‘know it all’ and are coming to get more information so you can ‘talk a better game’, this is not for you. You can’t fake being present. You can’t pretend peace and calm. You are not your mind or your feelings. There is a being and self realization underneath your personality. Do you want to discover that unique place inside of you?
9. This is an integrative journey. It will include your heart, body, mind and spirit. It will require you to evolve and become fit in each area. It will become a new lifestyle. You will have to let go of some behaviors and take on new ones. Excellence is in you. Do you want to practice and experience your authentic power and the life that goes with it?
10. You will need to raise your emotional intelligence to go along with the new power and possibility. If you do not do this, you will find yourself creating familiar people, circumstances and things to react to so you can feel comfortable and use you usual coping mechanisms. This will leave you feeling right again, but also stuck right here. Again. You will need to gain greater facility with your emotions to remain open as you meet the challenges of your reinvented self and future. You will need to manage and minimize some feelings, but also feel and fully express others.
11. You will need to give the gift of trust shortly after you begin to assure the speed, depth and power of your unique process. You will need to your teacher, guide, consultant, trainer and mentor. You can withhold trust and make someone earn your trust, but this will slow the process to a crawl as you make sure you aren’t hurt, dominated or abandoned.. You will know early on if I am who I say I am. You will see I live what I teach. And you can choose from there. Either way is ok.
12. Fundamental mistrust of yourself, others, your life and the universe will drop away in this process. If you cling to any of it for too long, you risk triggering yourself and creating a disagreement within yourself, with me or people around you. You get to be scared, but you want to allow yourself to be reassured. This is your path. Only you can take the steps along it. Each week, I will open the door, but you must step through it. Neither me nor the universe will do the work for you. And that’s the true adventure of life.